Dream big they say, dream wild, live your dreams and never let them die. But what if they are ruining your life? What if your dreams are completely out of sync with who you are today? What if you no longer want to be the superstar, you want to be the coach, the mom, the cheerleader instead? Along the way of discovering who we are we must take stock in our dreams to see if they still fit the person we are blossoming into!
Dreams are crucial to have, they feed your passion, which feeds your motivation. Without that ideal fantasy we don’t try as hard as we need to, push through the struggle or even reach outside our comfort zone. Dreams can help us find our core self and build our self-esteem, they help us evolve as a spiritual being and become something greater than the whole. They take on an energy of their own and become the beliefs and filters we approach life through.
When you were 10, 15, 20 years old you could dream the impossible. It was so far outside of your small world, deciding to become a performer, athlete, fireman was easy because it was all play acting and you were more invested in the dream than the actions that it takes to manifest it. When the steps towards manifesting your dream become an uncomfortable reality it can derail your forward momentum, even causing a crash and halting your life. When your dreams no longer resonate with who you have become it may be time to look at those old dreams and “re-dream” them.
What I often uncover with my clients is that the core desire or emotion of the dream stays the same, it’s the details that change. When you were 15 you may have picked up a guitar and dreamed of playing to a stadium of people, but at 18 discovered you have terrible stage fright. When you “re-dream” that ideal you may find at the core of it is the joy that music brings you and what you really want to do is become a music therapist for kids with emotional trauma. Or maybe it’s the creative process that brings you bliss so you decide to become a chef.
Re-dreaming is all about digging deeper into the fantasy you created and I have a great way of doing that with a variation of the “Why it that” exercise found in Coventry Magic with Candles herbs and oils. This exercise is quick, actually it is best if you do it quickly without thinking too much allowing your unconscious or deep dreamer to speak through the clutter of your waking mind.
Think about your dream, your ideal, and the fantasy that keeps driving the bus of your life. Really conjure that up on your mind’s eye. Got it? Ready?
Now ask yourself this question, “What stops me from fulfilling that dream?”
Let that first, nanosecond response guide yoru answer. Don’t judge it, just let it be even if it confuses you.
Now ask, “Why is that”. Let the story come to you, let your dreamer tell you what you really want, what is underneath that big story.
Now ask yourself, “What is my true motivation and desire?”
Then you have it, you now have a path to that core part of yourself that got lost in an old dream. Now you can re-dream this passion and create a life that you resonate with.
If you are having a bit of trouble getting to that point, let yourself do this exercise a few times and light an Intuition Affirmation candle to help you open up your psyche and let it speak to your waking mind.
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'Be careful, lest in casting out your demon you exorcise the best thing in you.' - Friedrich Nietzsche!
Whatever makes you weird is probably your greatest asset – Joss Whedon
Spiritual Cleansing is not just for the external energy around you, it’s for your own junk too. Many clients have come to me thinking that they were cursed or even haunted by an energy that was creating chaos and trauma in their life, but when we got down to it, it was their own self-judgment that was leaking out into their world and mucking up the place.
Our emotions can cause a lot of psychic junk in our own living and working spaces. Really, 90% of it is your own because it is familiar and the amount of it sneaks up on you and creates discord. When it’s energy that belongs to someone or something else it is obvious and creepy and most often your energy just pushes out what is uncomfortable. The big challenge is when our own emotions, fears, frustrations leak out into our environment and then attract more negative energy. This is when a big cleansing is in order.
There are many methods of spiritual cleansing, from visualization to a full blown ritual with a greater and lesser banishing pentagram and every imaginative incarnation in between. My favorite, of course is one of the Coventry Spiritual Cleansing candles, but there are times when even I need to add in a few tools and make that spiritual cleansing crackle with power.
Before starting your cleansing put your mind in the right space and cleanse like you mean it!
This is your space, your life and you are the authority in it! Cleanse with power and attitude! I big part of this process is you reclaiming your space and filling it with divine energy.
Speaking if the Divine, you are not in this alone. Call upon your spiritual allies, higher powers, gods, goddesses, angels and/or the universal creative force to fortify you and fill the space with an energy that is higher, clearer and brighter and for your greatest good.
Let it go. Whatever energy you are clearing let it go; don’t talk about it, relive it or fuss over it any more. To continue to give attention to what you have cleared calls it right back to you and gives it more power to boot.
No matter what ritual or tools you use for your cleansing you are accomplishing three things.
Rooting out all the hidden energy. Smudge, cigars, herbal smoke, drums and other vibration stir up the energy so you can collect it.
Collecting, disconnecting and removing the energy. Candles, brooms, coconuts, swifting motions, etc are used to gather the energy and push it out of your space. Scissors, breaking the broom, cutting ties, letting the candle burn down or extinguishing the candle are all used to disconnect the energy from you and then discarding the tools away from your residence or space fully removes it
Refilling your space with positive energy. Sweet Grass, intentional candles, Florida water, laughter, beautiful music, light, color are all ways to refill the energy. Nature abhors a vacuum and you must refill with energy of your choice or it will refill with what you just got rid of.
My sister Nancy and I have the same body type, yet we are the only ones in our family that have this body type. Out of 9 kids, 2 parents, dozens of cousins there is only the 2 girls who are tall and thick. I have always been “thick”, even as a little girl I was thicker than my family. I use the word thick to describe me because I was not fat. My mother and friends all called me fat, but the grown up me looks at those pictures and sees an adorable girl who was built like a Tonka truck, not a girl who was battle fat.
At a recent family gathering, Nancy and I commiserated that if another person commented that we “should just lose weight” we were going to respectively punch them right in the throat (my words). Oh yah, I forgot to lose these extra 70 pounds last week, I’ll get right on that. Our conversation turned to exploring our heritage and the pictures of our paternal grandfather’s people Nancy just uncovered. We realized our grandfather was a tall thick man, we discovered a great grandmother who was a large woman and we started to put the pieces together. We are good hearty Scottish women who can handle the harshness of the moors and survive brutal winters. I can last for months on what I have stored in my fat cells!
We inherit a lot from our ancestors and this is the time year where their presence in most acutely felt. We visit the morals and values we inherited from our parents and grandparents, we reminisce about good and bad times, we think about many could-have-beens. This is the perfect time to look at what legacies from your ancestors that you want to keep and which you wish to dis-inherit from you. It’s ok, you do not have to keep the junk and your ancestors wouldn’t want you to. Think about your challenges and imagine them becoming an inheritance of future generations. You wouldn’t want that for them and your ancestors feel the same.
In the DIY Akashic Wisdom book that Patty Shaw and I wrote, we have a meditation and instructions on releasing the legacies you no longer want to keep. I have also found that doing magic in your waking world in conjunction with your Akashic Record work can create a powerful magical shift. Ancestor altars, candles and creating new spiritual habits all take role in your healing.
The Problem Solving, Truth and Justice and Spiritual Cleansing Blessed Herbal Candle combination, when focused on your ancestors, can help you unravel what legacies are worth keeping and what no longer serves you or your family. Light those three candles and start talking or writing out what you remember about your childhood, the stories you were told and what challenges in your life that just don’t make sense to you. Take note of the things you want to release and then do so verbally or in a more ritualistic way by burning the paper you wrote them on (outdoors of course). You will get even more help from your ancestors this time of the year and the cleansing will be faster and deeper.
We are all crafted from the hard work, beliefs and challenges of our ancestors and it’s time to graduate into our own actualized selves.
By any name, when you send out a prayer, wish or intention to create change in your life, you are engaging in magic. It’s a wonderful and exciting cycle of co-creation that starts with a need that leads to inspiration (or desperation) of what spell is required, moves to will and intent to create change and then lands in trust. Where it usually fails is at the trust step. We just don’t trust the divine (God, universe, gods, goddess, great being, or any other name) to deliver and we let our fears, blocks, issues, etc. take over the driver’s seat. Don’t worry, that’s normal and why many people feel that magic doesn’t work.
I might have to agree with them that….. magic doesn’t work, You do. If you look at magic as the same thing as divine energy it is always there working for you and it’s your own limitations that get in the way. Look at this is a more practical way. Air doesn’t work, your lungs do. You actually have to breathe in air for it to sustain you and fill your cells with oxygen. You are surrounded with all the oxygen you need but if your lungs are not working you cannot take it in. Even look at altitude sickness – there is enough air for you to survive but your body has to learn a new way to processes it. When you are bringing in a new way of being, magic is the same way; you have to learn a new way to process this energy into your cells.
The moment where you start to doubt your magic is the moment you start blocking it and the divine healing it is bring to you. It is the moment when you start hitting on the bigger, deeper, hidden issue. Layer by layer we uncover these challenges and there is a way to help your magic stay on track and keep the divine in the driver’s seat; trick yourself. That moment of doubt, that next issue pushing back on your magic, the moment you touch upon the scary emptiness is when you change up your tools to stay on course. Have your next candle on standby, change the stones you are carrying, add new herbs to your mojo bag, wear a new oil, etc. Basically, up your game!
It’s why I always use 3 candles, they all work together to catch all my issues around a particular issue and they will work until I get used to them, then I choose a new combination. This is how we work the magic, how we breathe it in, learn how to process it and climb a little higher in our journey.