It’s about the money and it’s not about the money. Prosperity is more of an emotional state than a physical one. It’s a mental, emotional and magical shift that has physical results. I know this, because I did it and the world shifted around me to accommodate.
If prosperity is simply a state of mind, why am I not stinking rich?
To live a prosperous life, you have to let go of poverty. Poverty as an emotional state is abundant when you are struggling. It’s so abundant that I watch people apologize for having moments of financial success. “Yah, I’m doing better, but I still struggle.” I have even caught myself feeling bad about hitting my financial goals and treating myself to a well-earned reward. That is where my belief in my poverty rears its ugly head. We have to let go of the guilt of success, the nobility in poverty, the holiness of self-denial, and the habit of always feeling there will never be enough to start the journey of prosperous living.
If you grew up with the Christian Bible, like me, you were taught that the meek shall inherit the earth and that poverty was more divine than wealth. I’m not going to argue the merit of those bible passages, but what I am going to say is they were the cornerstone of my beliefs. That I would never financially prosper and that wealth would eat my soul. For many of us there is an underlying issue of feeling deserving, worthy and comfortable with prosperity of any kind. If this is at your core, no amount of money magic is going to sustainably change your situation. You will achieve success until it hits against the belief that you are not prosperous and succumb to your fears of material abundance. Then you do this dance again and again to feed the money magic machine.
If you are lacking in financial prosperity, the odds are you are struggling with this or at least a variation on this theme. It’s ok – so many of us are struggling and it’s a club I have no joy in being a member of. To get out of this poverty trap, you have to begin the healing journey one dollar at a time.
In my ongoing healing journey around money and prosperity I had to bravely face my fears around money. These fears were not laid out on a platter in a tidy manner for me to address one at a time. Oh no, they came up in ugly chaotic ways during some of my most successful moments. I landed a huge new client and then my equipment broke and my profits went to fix that. I had a successful festival and we discovered that the taxes were higher than expected. You know the story, you get a bonus and then the car breaks down. It is the like you were living the lyrics of “Ironic” by Alanis Morissette.
We have to start our journey to prosperity with the assumption that we are here on this earth to thrive and grow.
When you start with any other assumption – you cannot thrive, you can only survive.
In my book, Coventry Magic, Chapter 6, I talk about the “7 Steps to Creating Personal Magical Evolution” This process takes you through the magical healing journey in a way that is tailored to you in this moment. Let’s take these 7 steps and look at them through the prosperity lens (And the candle to go with). Meditate and journal about your insight on each step and then grab a copy of Coventry magic to go deeper into understanding.
Getting comfortable in your own skin – (Stability Blessed Herbal Candle) You must be balanced and grounded in the circumstances you find yourself in today. You do not have to like it, but you must know where you are so you have a benchmark to work from.
Letting go of limiting beliefs (poverty) – (Needed Change Blessed Herbal Candle) Most people have been brought up with a reality of need and limited resources. This belief can sabotage your prosperity magic and destroy your dreams. There is unlimited abundance waiting for you.
Clearing negative patterns – (Healing Blessed Herbal Candle) You have built up a reserve of negative, self-sabotaging patterns you will be clearing for years to come. Call them out and they will not be able to face the light of your spirit.
Writing your own ticket –(Problem Solving Blessed Herbal Candle) If you do not know where you are going, how will you know when you get there? Write your own ticket and the universe will provide the map.
Clearing your path - (Spiritual Cleansing Blessed Herbal Candle) You know you are on the right path when you come upon internal or external roadblocks. We actually look for road blocks to give us excuses for a diversion from our goals.
Multiply your desire – (Heart Blessed Herbal Candle) You have your plan, your open path and your courage, all you need to stir in is your absolute love and commitment to your goal. The heart center is the place where dreams are born.
Actualize your magic (receive abundance) – (Prosperity Blessed Herbal Candle) Align yourself with the energy of prosperity by finding what you are currently grateful for. This energy opens the door for more prosperity to enter and you have the key! Open your eyes, ears and heart and watch as prosperity moves on in!
These steps don’t necessarily play out in order – you experience them organically over and around and back again. Some steps go faster, some need more love and care. Above all else, experience, play and pop the hood of your emotions and see what might me misfiring. Be brave, talk it out, cry it out and demand better for yourself. This is a worthy journey and worth the self-care it takes to get there.
“If you were a really good witch/psychic/healer you would be rich by now.” Everyone who has heard that line raise your hand. Everyone who has thought that of themselves raise your other hand. Now that both of your hand are up, it’s a hold up and you’ have just been robbed – of a charmed life.
No, you cannot easily divine for the lotto numbers, but you can heal the issue within you that keeps you in a state of disconnect from the abundance of the universe. Yes, you have heard this before but I challenge you to actually level this up by pulling out your inner Wicked Witch and get a little selfish to create a charmed life.
If you are waiting on permission to have a charmed life, you are going to get dusty.
Are you appalled that I said it’s time to get selfish? That is a difficult idea for many of us. We spent our childhood being taught how to share, not be selfish and put the needs of others before your own and we walked into our adult life continuing that pattern to our own detriment. There is nothing wrong with being taught as a child to share and care for others - otherwise we would could end up narcissistic psychopaths. In adulthood we have to find the balance of when to be selfish and when to be giving. It is a fine balance of self-care and care of others, as one feeds the other. When we think of self-care as selfish, we dampen our personal power and wait for permission to take charge our lives.
The harsh reality, once we get into the adult world, is that no one is waiting to give you permission to live a charmed life. You have to give yourself permission and you do that by reaching for what you want and taking actions to get it. We have to get a little wicked (in the best possible ways.)
Dorothy Morrison, witch, author, speaker, and charmed woman has become one my role models for living a charmed life. Every February since 2011, Coventry declares it’s the “Month of Dorothy” and does something fun and wicked to celebrate her. In 2017, we are bringing back limited edition Dorothy Morrison candles; Hot Damn, Rich Bitch, Extreme Bad Ass and St Dorothy the Wicked. These 4 candles have proven themselves to be powerful tools to grab onto that charmed life and make it yours!
Order your Dorothy Morrison Limited Edition candles and you have the tools to power up a charmed life. Get a few of each as they will be sold out by the end of the month and you don’t want to miss the opportunity to create some big magic this year.
When you live the magic, get a little selfish and touch wicked, life can get really good.
These 4 candles are stand alone in their power. They can also be combined to take you further than you ever thought possible. The trick here is to proceed without apology, declare what you want and take the steps to get it.
Hot Damn – The Ultimate Good Luck Generator - This candle is amazing in its ability to create opportunity, put you in the right place at the right time and open the door to success.
When you are looking to increase your luck for whatever reason, light the candle, say the incantation and then spend time talking to the candle about what you want the result to be. Good luck at the casino, a new job, scholarships, new customers, better luck on eharmony… Pay attention, I’m leading you into some amazing magic here. Get yourself a penny (better if it’s one you just found) and dip it into the wax and place that in a piece of cloth and carry it with you. If you are looking for money, carry it in your wallet. If you are looking for a date, carry it in your pocket or bra. If you are looking for more customers, put it in your cash register or on your desk…. You get it, place your new lucky coin in a place that symbolizes the Hot Damn luck you want.
Extreme Bad Ass – Personal Power Accelerator - This is your ultimate road opener and gumption generator. If you are hesitant in grabbing your power in any way, light this candle and let its energy guide you to a moment of complete bad assness. There are many ways we dampen our power, not the least of them is fear of our own greatness.
When you need a boost of courage and self-confidence, light the Extreme Bad Ass Candle and say the incantation. Grab a large fire safe bowl. Write one fear or limitations on a small piece of paper and ignite it from the candle. Drop the paper into the fire safe bowl and let it burn. DO this over and over again to get your fears and limitations out. Go outside and scatter the ash to the wind. Get a new piece of paper and write down all the ways you are a bad ass. Drip some of the candle wax on the list and carry that with you. Add to your list daily, even if you are writing the same things over and over again.
Rich Bitch – Triple X Money Magnet – This well-loved candle has proven its worth again and again. At Coventry, we get calls all year round looking for this candle. There is something about declaring that you are a Rich Bitch as you light this candle that just powers up your magic and manifests the cash you need. This is more than just a fast cash candle, the Rich Bitch candle combines the speed of a money draw, combines it with the forward momentum of a Success candle and then anchors in with longevity of a Prosperity candle.
Power up your Rich Bitch energy even more by writing yourself a few checks from the universe. The first check is dated for this month and is for the immediate cash you need. The second check is the money you will need for the next 6 months and shows the Universe your growing earning potential. The 3rd check is the amount of money you want to have in savings at the end of the year. Be reasonable and stretch yourself at the same time. Light your Rich Bitch candle, put it in its holder and then place it on top of the checks. Tape a $20 bill face in around the candle holder to show your money that it is growing. When the candle is done, put that $20 in your savings account.
St Dorothy the Wicked – The Magic Miracle Worker - If you ever met Dorothy, you would know that she has a legitimate answer for every question. Even if she doesn’t have the exact answer, she knows who does. Dorothy also has a concert of saints and spirits who she talks to every day and when you use this candle to call up on St Dorothy, you call upon her spirit allies too.
When you need a special favor from the spirit world to solve an impossible situation, first, gather up all of your change in the house. Put the St Dorothy candle in its candle holder and surround it with all the change that you have. Write out your petition for assistance and place it on top of the change. Let the candle burn for three days and put all the new change you acquire on top of the petition. On the 4th day, take all the change and the petition and give it to the poor box at your local church, or any place that helps the hungry children. Shred your petition and bury it in the dirt close to where your donated the money. Do this every 3 days until the candle it burnt out. Your situation should clear up in within 7 days of your candle being complete.
There are more ways to use these products in combination with other Wicked Witch Mojo products. Just give a listen to the “Life Reinvented” class Dorothy did at the Candle Wick Shoppe https://youtu.be/PWY7obC3wQE for even more ideas.
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Is this another story of the American Dream come true? An idea, a small financial stake and lots of tenacity and you have the latest sensation? Yes and no. All of those factors are true, but what no one talks about is the other secret sauce that makes your business successful. Everyone glosses over the hard work and the soul eating challenges that come up for an entrepreneur because it’s not glamorous and doesn’t make good press. But all of that blood, sweat, and tears is part of your secret sauce and I can show you how to turn it into prosperity magic.
Witches, healers and entrepreneurs all use the same magic.
Every time someone talks to me about starting a business I tell them that the first rule of building a business is that you will face every fear and limitation you have and you will face them in trials of fire. It's ok, it has to be that way because as your business grows, so do you. If you wimp out, you close your doors. If you meet that challenge, grow from it personally, you grow your business. Each entrepreneur’s story is unique and the rhythm is different and every one will tell you they are scared often. Scared and courageous, that is what it take to stay in business 25 years. This is the definition of personal healing, this is the definition of making magic. You find the problem, you find the damage in your spirit, you heal, your transform, you grow.
When I started this journey I was 24 years old and filled with ideals. I wanted to build a new, progressive business. I wanted to empower everyone. I wanted to call my staff my partners and pay everyone the same wage. I wanted to build a new world from this business and everyone would be inspired to work with me at the same level of commitment and enthusiasm. What a dream! What an impossible dream, but is was my inspiration to take the risk and travel forward. I love tapping into that 24 year old’s ideals. They are so powerful and pure, albeit naïve and lacking in practicality.
I made my mistakes early and often. I hired the hangers-on and they pandered to my ideals. I had no understanding of how to manage people, growth and customer needs and created an environment ripe from drama. I got divorced, remarried and became a mom in those early years and am amazed that I am still sane from all the crazy I created and surrounded myself with. I am proud of those times, I am proud of the crazy, at the very least for getting through it. I am most proud of realizing it all began and ended with me and if I wanted to heal my business, I had to heal me.
Being me, I decided I would take this journey the long way and teach myself everything rather than allow the ideals of others to limit me. From production techniques to marketing and design, I was going to master each section of my business. I don’t recommend the method, as it took Coventry to the brink of disaster each time. Thank goodness for my sister and partner Patty, as she stood with me at the edge of the cliff and held me back each time (sometimes helping me back up the embankment of the abyss). Looking at the landscape of my past I understand now why I took the long way around, so I can experience not only failure, but getting up over and over again.
I know now that it’s the getting up over and over again after failure that is the secret sauce to prosperity.
Success is not a straight line, it is a journey of experiencing success and failure over and over again that take you to each new level.
Whether you are in business or are working for a business, personal success follows the same seemingly chaotic journey. You follow the rules, yours or societies, go in the right direction, take the necessary steps, get some success under your belt and then it all falls apart. You do this over and over again and it can start to feel like you are cursed and want to just give up. It is that moment that is the most pivotal. More than the the birth of an idea, the moment where you are about to give up and give in that changes the game. This is where you grow and develop your personal magic. I love and hate this moment. I hate the pain, but I have experienced it enough that I LOVE the results when I keep hanging in, listening to what is next and taking action.
You don’t need any direction on the idea part, those are easy and you have a million of them. Where you need a professional push is in the challenge, and I have it for you.
Here are the steps on how to make it through giving up and into growing up.
1 – Embrace your failure. This is a gift you gave to yourself. You risked, you worked and you failed. Within that is gold. Within that failure is your answer to what you need to do next. Celebrate yourself for creating this new experience and working through the fear.
2 – List what went wrong and what went right. You have to start with what you know before you can get inspired to take the next step. Get honest with yourself and with each thing that went wrong, add what you thought would happen and what you felt when it went wrong. Recover your self worth and list everything that went right and define your intended outcome and the steps you took to get it right.
3 – Uncover your fears. Write and talk out what you were afraid of during this experience. What emotions were activated in this project? Did you get angry? Did you overcompensate? Did you feel like a fraud? List them all out and then start asking yourself why? Why did I feel like that? What was I afraid of? Why was I afraid of that? What hidden belief was trying to take over?
4 – Rewrite your fears and belief. When you dig in, uncover what belief was driving the bus, you can see how to do that through the emotional clues you just uncovered. Give yourself some support here and use your magical and spiritual tools. Choose the energy that will support you in candles (my favorite), stones, oils, colors or just talking it out with a trusted support person.
5 – Brainstorm a new direction! Taking what went wrong, what went right, how your emotions and fears contributed to your issue and create a new plan. Run that plan by someone who had been successful in your field and ask for their experience.
6 - Take new action. Do something, take action based on a solid plan. Do it.
7 – Keep growing. Do this over and over again in small and large ways. Keep doing this until it is second nature. Over and over again this is how we grow, thrive and survive.
It may seem a bit circular to repeat this process over and over again, but it’s really a spiral where you are crossing similar territory with a new set of experiences and tools. Sometimes we nail it and get to travel fast and furious on our journey. Sometimes we fail over and over again to learn the bigger lesson that will help us sail father the next time.
My journey started with $100 of materials, old pots, old cans and my kitchen stove. It has been 25 years of failure, success and learning along the way. I am rich in spirit beyond measure and happy to the core of my soul. This is more valuable to me than gold and yet it is the energy and magic that bring prosperity to me every day.
“We make our own happiness.”
“Happiness is created, not found.”
“Happiness comes from what we do.”
“Happiness is about enjoying the moment.”
I have shared all these meme’s on my social media. I have these posters in my office. I write these quotes in my journal and sometimes they don’t help because I have run out of happiness. It happens, your reserves are so empty that you just can’t muster another mildly pleasant moment. Your joy cupboards are bare and all you are left with is an empty void of feelings.
We have all been at a place where there is nothing left to give, and this is a powerfully healing moment.
What do you do when you are empty of happiness? How do you find your way back to a place of contentment and joy? Maybe you don’t need to get happy again right away, maybe you need to feel the darkness that you are in and learn from it. If you deny the dark side of your emotions, force lightness and joy when you don’t feel it, the darkness can push back by sucking you in at the worst time and without you knowing the way out. If you embrace that darkness and travel through it with purpose and intent, you can easily find your way out again.
The answer to “What do you do when you are all out of happiness?” is to feel sad with a purpose. Go down to the bottom of the well of emotions and you will find a gem there. There is always a gift in pain if you look for it. There is always a blessing within the curse, but you have to travel into the center of hell to find it. What do they say when you are walking thru hell? Don’t stop. Don’t turn back, just keep moving forward to the other side. There is always the other side.
I am going to give you some tools for the next time you find you are all out of happiness. These tools will help you navigate the dark night of the soul and get to a place of balance and comfort. When you are walking this difficult path, you need to clear out the old lies, fears and beliefs that tell you to give up. There is no defeat in traveling this path, there is only defeat in stopping and wallowing along the way.
1 – Don’t go alone. Get a Guardian Protector Affirmation candle, light it and start talking to your guides. Even if you can’t hear them, they can hear you and they won’t let you fall. The Guardian Protector Affirmation candle will help you feel and experience the guides around you, especially when you are so emotionally low you are blocking the divine from your energy.
2 – Shed the negativity along the way. Use the Spiritual Cleansing Blessed Herbal Oil to anoint your hands, heart and crown. Then, get out your journal, scrap paper or anything that you can write on and draw out all the deep and dark emotions you are feeling. Do this for as long as or as often as you need to. One 30 minute session is not the cure, it is the beginning of the process. Your dark side will tell you that is enough, but it is tricking you in a way that allows this sadness and these fears to stay intact and in charge. It’s like eating right; one salad does not cure heart disease, and one journaling session does not get all the angst out.
3 – Cry, shout, and feel the anger. Light the Fiery Wall of Protection candle to contain and burn up the emotions you are about to express and then express them. Shout it out, cry, bitch, and moan, whatever it takes. If you need someone to express it to, put them on the other side of the candle so you don’t pass the pain, you just dump it and let it burn away.
4 – Count your blessings. Light the Truth & Justice Blessed Herbal Candle. List out verbally and on paper what you are grateful for. It’s ok if you have to start with things like, “Gravity, so I don’t float out into space”, or “Oxygen, so I can breathe”. Start basic, do what you can and return to it later in the day, tomorrow or even next week.
5 – Let others be happy. The Grief Affirmation candle helps you shed and release the deep emotions you are experiencing without them polluting your entire world. Not everyone is feeling what you are and to bring them wholly into your pain stops you from fully processing it and moving through it to the end.
6 – Let the divine creep in. The Inner Balance Blessed Herbal candle will hold the space for you during this process and make room for divine energy. Next thing you know, you feel a bit better and then that leads to more and more happiness creeping in.
This is not a day trip into your dark side. This is a longer, slower journey that needs to process through your entire being. Use any system to help your through this; chakras, Kabbalah, 7 Steps to core change from my book Coventry Magic. Any system has value that you can lean on when the road gets rough, you just have to make the journey to the other side.